I once went on a first date to a restaurant with somebody who proceeded to order my food for me. It was many years ago and I remember just sitting, making a mental note to myself that we would never go on a date again.
But here is the thing: I was also unclear to that I was bothered by the action.
I got to know him better during that summer through phone calls and messages, and the night of my birthday, he asked me out on a date. It would have been so easy for me to fall head over heels for Joseph, throwing caution to the wind.
I hadn’t ever dated before, so I didn’t have a lot of experience in how relationships worked (except the stack of books that I’d read on the subject). In romantic relationships, we can mistake boundaries as a bad thing, or think they’re unnecessary.
But in a conversation early on in our relationship, Joseph did something I will forever be thankful for. Although I knew we needed boundaries in our relationship, I was also a little worried. But the boundaries in Joseph and I’s relationship weren’t rules that we put into place to take all the fun and excitement out of our romance.
Instead, the boundaries we established kept both of us from getting hurt in our relationship.
So this book addresses the common missteps in dating due to a lack of appropriate boundaries, as well as establishes the good benefits that result from healthy dating relationships, whether or not these relationships lead to the marriage altar.
It is often hard to acknowledge differences between people on the first few dates.
Unless you are someone for whom the philosophy “opposites attract” is paramount, you may find this difficult also.
Even if you’re doing well, the insights you’ll gain from this much-needed book can help you fine-tune or even completely readjust important areas of your dating life.
Written by the authors of the bestselling book Boundaries, Boundaries in Dating is your road map to the kind of enjoyable, rewarding dating that can take you from weekends alone to a lifetime with the soul mate you’ve longed for.